There's been a topic bothering lately and it's something I've kind of touched on before but I'm going to again. Adult friends/becoming parents, I do believe there is a chapter missing in the "What to expect when your expecting" book and that is Expect your inner circle to disappear and then change. The truth is, the people I was friends with before I became a mommy or even pregnant I really no longer talk to. I guess your no fun once you get married and then start having kids, or maybe I just grew up and realized I don't need any more drama in my already dramatic life. We all say that we changed drastically through out our pregnancies and even more so once we became mommies. Well the good mommies say that, I think the change is just a part of life and the good parents allow the change to happen and realize that they are no longer #1.
Since I moved back to the east coast I feel like I'm back in high school. Only this time I'm a freshman in a new school where I really don't know anyone cause the kids I meet during summer all ended up moving. I find once you've become a parent it's difficult to be friends with people that aren't. What I have realized is I am slightly lucky in that category as military folk tend to reproduce like rabbits :). So finding other moms around my age and situation is very easy however finding people who aren't crazy/overly judgmental isn't.
I like to think of myself as a pretty normal person, I mean your not going to hear about my marital issues every conversation( as I don't usually involve others that much into my personal drama).You will never hear me start a conversation with "Oh My Gawd you will not believe what so and so said/did" ( I'm a girl that wears a t-shirt, jeans, and flip flops/Birkenstocks to basically everything, I'm really not one to judge others especially by saying OMG). I don't lie, well I take that back actually we all lie but I truly try my hardest not to I think its pointless and only makes things worse in the end, this often gets me in trouble though cause apparently being outspoken and sometimes overly blunt/opinionated these days isn't a quality people tend to enjoy.
I often think of the movie/book he's just not that into you, remember the beginning of the movie where all the girls are making excuses for their friends to make them feel better? Yeah , I'm not that type of person if your telling me a situation hoping to hear that your super amazing and he just realized he's not good enough for you or he's scared of getting hurt blah blah blah, but to me it sounds like he's probably cheating on you or your just being a crazy B, well I'm sorry but I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear I'm just not the person to sugar coat things.
Any way its just hard finding friends that you can honestly enjoy your time with and know that there aren't any hidden motives or strings attached.